What makes con artists compelling is that people don’t know their game. The narcissist can string you along until they’ve taken what they want and then ruthlessly discard you. However, once you recognize their tactics, they start to lose their power.

Recognizing the form the narcissist takes will suddenly allow you to see them - where before they were totally camouflaged.

This can be likened to a scene from the children’s novel, Hatchet by Gary Paulsen. A teenage boy, Brian, is stranded alone on a remote island and is desperately hunting for food. His targets are the island’s foolbirds - fat, dull birds that cover the island and should be easy prey. However, they are camouflaged so well with their surroundings that he is unable to recognize them until they abruptly fly away, often when he is almost right on top of them.  

After frustrating hours of hunting, he has a breakthrough where he can finally see them for the first time.  

“But this time, when the bird flew, something caught his eye and it was the secret key. The bird… turned, curving through the trees… and Brian, for an instant, saw it as a shape; sharp-pointed in front, back from the head in a streamlined bullet shape to the fat body.

Kind of like a pear, he had thought, with a point on one end and a fat little body; a flying pear.

And that had been the secret. He had been looking for feathers, for the color of the bird, for a bird sitting there. He had to look for the outline instead, had to see the shape instead of the feathers or color, had to train his eyes to see the shape…

It was like turning on a television. Suddenly he could see things he never saw before.”

Once Brian is able to recognize the birds’ shape, he starts seeing them everywhere. They are no longer able to hide from him.

Just like these birds, narcissists camouflage themselves by their various “feathers” (attractive facades), which they use to blend in with their environment. They know how to say the right words, do the right things, and perform the right way so that no-one suspects the dark selfishness which drives them. Narcissists can be hidden within spiritual groups, charities, political organizations, family systems, or any other community.

Through this guide, you will learn the predictable pattern that narcissists take. Then no matter how they present on the outside, you will have the tools to immediately recognize them based on their pattern of behavior.

Once you begin to see them for what they are, their allure and mystery drops away, and surprisingly, they are no longer attractive. In fact, you may even begin to feel a little repulsed by them.

I hope this guide will save you from weeks, months, and years of heartbreak wasted in narcissistic relationships that drain your spirit and leave you questioning your sanity.